Turning Fifteen: Birthday Blues and Goals



Hi everyone!

Welcome back to my blog. I'm finally turning fifteen on Monday (July 6) and, truthfully, I'm having mixed feelings about this. There's something about birthdays that both excites me and terrifies me and every summer, as July gets closer, I can almost feel the years slipping through my fingers. It sounds so dramatic but growing up is thrilling yet scary and in some ways, I can't wait to get older and see where time takes me as I move through adolescence and into adulthood. I'm really excited to learn how to drive, earn money and become more independent. But, equally, my responsibilities increasing and seeing the world getting uglier is also part of getting older which isn't so appealing! 

As some of you may know, I am currently living away from my extended family: I live with my immediate family in the Middle East but my grandparents, cousins etc. all live in the UK (check out my perks of growing up in different cultures post for more insight). Every summer, I go back to the UK and spend the summer over there which means I get to spend my birthday with my extended family and friends in the UK. But obviously, given the virus, this year is different and I'm not going to see them at all this summer which kind of sucks. This is my first year spending my birthday away from them, so the birthday blues hit me a little bit worse this year. 

Having said all that, I know that I am incredibly lucky and I could be in a much worse situation. There is no point in me complaining about something I cannot change and dwelling on what I'm missing out on. Instead of enjoying my birthday (that only happens once a year), I'll just end up kicking off my next year to a negative start and that's not helping anyone. So, I'm trying my hardest to snap out of that mindset and be grateful for what I have.

One thing that makes me more optimistic is planning and setting out goals. Unlike most people, I'm usually more focused on my goals towards the end of summer rather than at the beginning of January because, being a student, I'm more motivated at the start of a new academic year because more things change. For me, a new school year with new teachers and classes gives me a better chance of a fresh start than a new year on the calendar does. Therefore, being a summer baby is very beneficial to me because it means that I can set goals for my new academic year as well my new birth year (if that makes sense). So, I decided to share some of the goals I have set for myself with you guys. 

1. Get grades that I'm happy with for my GCSEs

At the end of my next school year, I'll hopefully be sitting GCSEs which are very important exams. Notice how I said that I want to be happy with the grades I get, rather than get good grades because success is always relative and, in my opinion, a 'good' grade simply doesn't exist. To someone, getting a B is amazing but someone else will be disappointed with that grade: it's all about doing things to the best of your ability. I do want to get high grades as I am very academically-minded (but that doesn't make me smarter than a less academic person!) but I will have to put the work in. That means staying organised, managing my time, working hard and trying to maintain good physical and mental health.

2. Go out more often

I am a very introverted person and, over the years, I've said no countless times when my friends ask me to go out. But now, having spent months in isolation, I'm missing going on days out with my friends and family. Next year, I want to make more of an effort to say yes to more outings and plan some of my own (which I'm also really bad at!).

3. Keep up the hobbies I've taken up in lockdown

I've started blogging regularly, writing articles, teaching myself the piano, writing creatively and working out during this self-isolation period and I've enjoyed all of them. When school starts and when life takes off again, I hope that I continue with these hobbies. Obviously, I know that I won't have as much time, but I do want to continue them to some extent. 

4. Become more confident

This is one of my goals every year, but every year I do become slightly more confident. I'm a very shy person and, although I can hold a conversation one-on-one, I stay almost silent in large groups especially if I feel like I don't belong there in some way. Next year, I want to become confident enough to be able to talk to people in groups without getting panicked. It's a long shot, but I'll try taking baby steps!

I'm also the type of person who doesn't go out of their way to make new friends. If someone approaches me, I'll talk to them and be friendly, but I'm never the one reaching out. If I'm sitting next to someone in class, I will talk to them but I won't go up to them during breaktimes. This is something I really want to change! 

As well as this, I want to increase my self-confidence and stop being so insecure about the way I look.

5. Dream journal

Recently, I've started writing all my dreams down in a notebook. As soon as I wake up, I remember my dreams very vividly and some of them are hilarious! So I write them down. They're really fun to look back on so I want to keep doing this. Maybe I'll write up a blog post later on telling you guys about some of the dreams from my journal... 

6. Look after myself better 

I'm incredibly fortunate in that I don't have any physical or mental illnesses (Alhumdulillah) but I need to maintain this and make sure my health doesn't slip.

I've been working out more recently which does wonders for both my physical and mental health and I've also been trying to eat more fruit and veg. I don't eat a lot of junk food anyway as it physically makes me feel terrible (my stomach hurts and sometimes I throw up if I indulge in too much junk or processed food) but there's always room for improvement.

As for my mental health, I need to learn how to help myself and my problems before I help everyone else. I am a very empathetic person and I have cried and panicked countless times over issues that do not concern me in any way. Being so empathetic makes a nicer person but it can often be very mentally draining and sometimes I get caught up in everyone else's problems and don't focus on my own. This is something I really want to work on.

7. Stop caring about what other people think 

I'm such a people-pleaser and I will go out of my way to make sure that no one has a problem with me but, sometimes, it's at the expense of my own happiness. I know that this is completely illogical because I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea, and that's okay. The only thing I can do is make sure I'm a good person and that I'm happy with myself. This is a lot easier said than done!

In addition to this, if someone upsets me, I wouldn't tell them in case they got mad or hurt. But that's not fair on myself or on them. So, I'm going to try to be slightly blunter with people and not get so hung up on what they think of me. 

So, those are my thoughts and goals now that I'm turning fifteen. This will be fun to look back on this time next year to see if I actually followed through with my targets! Let me know if getting older scares you like it scares me in the comments, and comment any goals you are trying to achieve.  

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Stay safe,

Alisha xx 




Comments

  1. This is such a nice post - good luck with all of your goals! Don't feel sad about the years slipping away; I always like to look at it as though with each new year will lead to bigger and better opportunities - life is about grasping those to the max and gaining more and more life experiences and tales for you to tell over the years. Hope you have a good birthday for the 6th!

    Paige // Paige Eades

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    1. That's such a positive way of looking at it! Thank you so much for your lovely comment and your advice has made me feel much better xx

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  2. OMG turning 15. I'm about to turn 25 soon! I love your list and wish I'd lived by some of these when I was younger! I think in essence, you're only young once (I mean I'm still not old, but you catch my drift) so enjoy it! I was so uptight and hard working at school, which has obviously made me who I am, that I don't really feel like I enjoyed everything schools actually have to offer (now I feel old! haha)

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

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    1. Aww no you're not old! Honestly being in your 20s seems like such a cool age: you're old enough to be independent but young enough to live somewhat carelessly. Thank you so so much for your advice; I feel like we're always told to work super hard so that we have a secure life but we aren't told to live a little! And you're right- you're only at school once so you might as well enjoy it. I hope you have a good 25th birthday ❤

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  3. Thank you! Your poems on your blog are amazing.

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  4. Aw Man that sucks that my previous comment didnt go through but I wished you a very happy birthday. My birthday is also this week on July 10th and I will be turning 28 lol. I dont know how I feel about that yet but we shall see! I like your idea of a dream journal, I might start doing that for this new year of mine to document the dreams i dream in the year 28. Thank you for sharing xxx - Josie | The Cheetah Buzz

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    1. I would definitely recommend dream journaling- but try doing it as soon as you wake up so that you don't forget anything about your dream haha. Happy early birthday! xx

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  5. Great post! I hope you had an amazing birthday! I can relate to being really quiet when in a large group and that is something I want to change as well! I hope you achieve all of your goals and have a happy year!

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